The Love You Give Starts With the Love You Show Yourself

To every mom navigating toddler-hood and every grandma stepping into the role of raising grandchildren: You are pouring out love. You are giving energy and patience every day.

You care for these little hearts.

But do you ever ask yourself, Am I giving myself the same kindness I offer them?

Why Self-Compassion Matters in Motherhood and Care-giving

We often believe that the more we sacrifice, the more we’re showing love. But the truth is, love thrives when it’s nurtured—not just in our children, but in ourselves.

Allow yourself rest. Speak kindly to yourself. Embrace the imperfections of parenting. Through these actions, you model something incredibly powerful: Self-compassion.

Midst caring for these little hearts, do you ever stop to ask yourself? Do you offer yourself the same kindness you give to them?

When I Forgot to Give Myself Grace: A personal story about being sick and impatient with your children

I learned this the hard way one day when I was sick. I had a fever, exhaustion pressing heavy against me, but my little one still needed me. As the day wore on, my patience grew thinner. The constant activity, the demands, the chaos of toddler life—it all felt unbearable. And before I knew it, I snapped, my frustration spilling out in a sharp tone.

The moment I saw my child’s startled eyes, guilt crept in. Not because I was upset, but because I hadn’t given myself the grace I desperately needed. I pushed through and ignored my body’s plea for rest. In doing so, I had nothing left to give but frustration.

I had to take moments for myself

That day, I realized something powerful: Caring for myself is not selfish. It is necessary.

I am a better mother when I show myself compassion. This happens when I pause to breathe, accept my limits, and allow myself to rest. A more patient, mindful, and loving one.

Children learn from the way we treat ourselves

Children learn love not only in the way we care for them but in the way we care for ourselves.

Many a grandchild watching their grandma focus on joy learns about love. They see that self-care is important. Love isn’t just about giving. It’s about being whole enough to give freely.

A toddler watching their mother take a deep breath instead of snapping in frustration learns that emotions are manageable. I remember my son telling me, “I am treating my body well when I exercise.” He stood beside me doing yoga in our living room. He was obeying the video instructions of a yoga class.

How do you model self-compassion for your child or grandchild?

Consider the ways kids learn emotional well-being by watching how you treat yourself.

• Self-Kindness in Tough Moments – When you make a mistake but respond with self-compassion instead of criticism
• Healthy Boundaries – Setting limits on your time and energy teaches them that self-care and respect go hand in hand.
• Emotional Regulation – Taking deep breaths or stepping away when frustrated models how to manage emotions calmly.
• Prioritizing Rest and Joy – Showing them that you take breaks, laugh, and enjoy life teaches that happiness matters.
• Speaking Kindly About Yourself – Avoiding self-deprecating talk and embracing self-love helps them build confidence in themselves

A Gentle Reminder: You Deserve Care Too

You deserve the same kindness you give to your child. Because when you refill your own cup with grace, patience, and self-love, you have even more to pour into them.

So today, take a moment just for you.

A breath, a cup of tea, a quiet prayer, a gentle reminder that you matter. Because the more compassion you give yourself, the more love you’ll have to give.

When was the last time you showed yourself the same patience and kindness that you gave your child?

Reflect on a moment when self-care made a difference in your parenting or care-giving.

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Have you ever experienced a moment when you realized the importance of caring for yourself as a mom or grandma? Share your story in the comments—I read every comment carefully!

Let’s keep encouraging each other on this journey of love and compassion!

Hugs from Dawn